It may not be easy to get your boyfriend back, especially if he's the one who broke it off with you. But here are 5 quick tips that should help you get it done:

Get your head straight.

Get clear on what you want and why you want it. Get rid of negative thoughts. Stop feeling sorry for yourself. Be positive. Feel, self-pity and worry are very unattractive qualities, and you're not going to attract him back that way.

Accept that it's over.

The relationship you used to have with him is over. Done. In the past. You can't change anything that happened, you can't take back anything you said or did. It's carved in stone. Since you can't do anything about the past, stop trying to fix it. Instead, use it to inform your new relationship:

What was it about the relationship you used to have that didn't work? What behaviors and attitudes of yours contributed to it not working? Most importantly, how can you change your attitudes and behaviors now, so that when you start over, you don't fall into those old patterns again?

Give him space.

Don't pester him. If you get in his face all the time, you'll only annoy him and that won't help. Think about the most annoying person you know: how much time do you want to spend with that person? Approximately... NONE. If you annoy your ex, how much time is he going to want to spend with you? Approximately...

So don't call him, email him, text him, or follow him or his friends around. Give him time and space to start to realize he may have made a mistake in breaking it off. To start missing you. Think about the person you miss the most: how much do you want to see that person again? A lot, right? And once he starts missing you, how much will your ex want to see you?

Be desirable.

Try some new makeup, or a different hairstyle. Maybe get some new clothes. (Hey! Do you really need an excuse like this to go out and get some new clothes?) Go to the gym. Start a regular walking, jogging, or running program. When you look hot on the outside, you start feeling hot on the inside, and that will give you confidence and confidence makes you desirable. (And if things aren't going to work out with the ex, you'll also be desirable to other guys...)

Take it slow and easy.

If you've followed the first 4 tips, chances are good that — if he's even a little bit interested in getting back together — your ex boyfriend will start coming around again. When he sees the "new" you, he'll probably be sorry that he broke up with you.

At this point, it's important to keep your distance, emotionally and physically. Especially physically: if you're looking good, and he wants you, it'll make him want you even more if you don't let him get intimate right away (even if — no, especially if — you want him just as bad).

Whatever you do, before you get all hot and heavy, get straight with him about didn't work for you the last time out, and make sure that he's willing to do his part to do it right this time. If not, maybe one of those other guys who's been checking you out would be a better choice...