If you and your boyfriend have just broken up, you're probably wondering, "can I get my ex boyfriend back?". Of course, every relationship is different, so every breakup is different, but here are some things you can do that may help you get him back.

Be nice to him.

This should probably go without saying, but some people think that nagging is the best way to get what they want. It's not; if you nag him, you'll only remind him of the things about you that he wanted to get away from. If you make him feel uncomfortable whenever he's around you, you'll only end up driving him further away.

Be as nice as you can whenever you're around him, unless the only way to do that is to be totally phony. And if you have to be phony to be nice to him, you have to wonder: do you really want him back?

Here are some other common questions that I hear:

Can I get my ex boyfriend back if he has a new girlfriend?

This is a tough one: not only are you going to have a hard time getting him alone if he's with someone else, but even if you do, he's probably focused on his new relationship. But remember, most "rebound relationships" don't last very long, and the reason for that is that the person who is on the rebound ends up getting back with their ex.

This is why it's specially important to be nice to him right now; you want him to see how nice you really are, so he can start to realize what he's missing by not being with you any more.

Can I get my ex boyfriend back by tricking him?

No matter what kind of trick you're thinking about, even if it doesn't seem particularly bad, forget about it right now. Even the most innocent-seeming trick, lie, or exaggeration could backfire on you later.

What's the point of figuring out how to get him back only to lose him again a short time later because he found out that you lied to him or tricked him into getting back with you?

Can I get my ex boyfriend back by making him jealous?

Maybe, but it could also backfire by making him think that you've moved on, and if you want to get back together with him, that's probably not what you want him to think.

If you meet somebody, and you feel like dating them, then go ahead. But don't do it if you're just doing it to make your ex jealous; that's not fair to any of you.

Be very careful if you're considering using some kind of a game — whether trickery, or lies, or trying to make him jealous — to get your ex back; these kinds of games almost always backfire.

Be honest with yourself, and with your ex, and you'll have a much better chance of getting back together.