If you're wondering how to get your girlfriend back, then the breakup probably wasn't so bad that you think the relationship can't be saved. And who knows? Maybe she even feels the same way. If you said anything you were sorry for during the split, now's the time to say so. Being sincerely sorry, and showing it, is a good first step. Here are some common questions:

Can I get my ex girlfriend back by showing my "sensitive side"?

There's no guarantee that this will get you back together, but it probably wouldn't hurt; show her how much you miss her, and how sorry you are that you're apart. One great way to show your "sensitive side" is to buy a blank card and write your own verse in it. It doesn't have to rhyme (in fact it's better if it doesn't); it just has to honestly express how you feel.

I guarantee you that this will go a lot further towards winning her back than buying one of those sentimental hallmark cards with the sappy love poem and signing your name to it.

Can I get my ex girlfriend back by being thoughtful?

Were you thoughtful during the relationship? If you rarely did thoughtful things during your relationship (or you only did them at the beginning), she may doubt the sincerity of the thoughtful things you do now. Be patient, and keep doing working at it. Don't get frustrated because she's not "getting it". A thoughtful person is — by definition — a person who does thoughtful things: if you keep doing thoughtful things, she will come to see you as a thoughtful person.

Can I get my ex girlfriend back by dating other women?

If it's been a long time, and you're still doing thoughtful things for her and she doesn't seem to be responding, a casual date will probably do you some good, and it may make her wish she was the one you were going out with. But do yourself (and the other woman) a favor and don't go out with somebody else just to get your ex's attention or make her jealous; that's not fair to any of you.

And be careful; don't rub her face in the fact that you're going out with someone else, or it will probably backfire on you. It's best not to let her see you out with someone else, or to mention it to her yourself, or to do anything overtly to make sure she knows about it. If she's interested, she'll find out somehow, and then she can make a more rational decision on how to react to it.

Can I get my ex girlfriend back if she has a new boyfriend?

The odds are against it, but if she believes that she'll be happier with you than with the new boyfriend, you have a better chance (being thoughtful will go a long way toward showing her this). Even if it seems hopeless, you shouldn't give up; a lot of "rebound" relationships are very short-lived (and the reason for that, a lot of times, is that the person on the rebound ends up going back to their ex).

One other thought before I close this: if you're a guy, you may feel better if you have a step by step plan in place to get your girlfriend back. Along those lines, you'll see a banner just below here, and a book cover to the right; clicking on either of those (or on the text link that's coming up here in a second) will take you to a site where you can check out "The Magic of Making Up"; this is a step-by-step system that really does work like magic (and it's 100% guaranteed, so you've got nothing to lose by checking it out).