You see, Amy's friend Jill told her that her boyfriend, Ken, had been sleeping with another woman. And without even checking Jill's story out, or simply asking him about it, Amy confronted Ken and accused him of sleeping around. This took Ken totally by surprise because he actually wasn't sleeping around, and he didn't react very well to the accusation.

They got into a big argument, and Amy dumped him.

Later, Amy found out that Jill had just made the story up to see if she could stir things up. Now Amy was in a tight spot; she wanted to get Ken back, but she was the one who dumped him! She called Ken and explained what Jill had done and said she was sorry, but Ken was in no mood to even talk to her; Amy had hurt him too much by not trusting him and dumping him the way she did.

How could she get him back when he felt this way?

First of all, Amy wrote Ken a long letter. In it, she took total responsibility for what happened and promised it would never happen again. She reminded him that they had a long history and that they'd shared some great times. She said that she couldn't bear the thought of throwing that all away.

She admitted that she acted the way she did out of jealousy, because she loved him and couldn't stand the thought of him being with another woman. She didn't mention Jill again, or try to blame anyone else for her mistake.

After she mailed that letter, she left him alone: she didn't text him or call him. She figured that he needed his space. And she was right; if she'd kept after him at that point, it probably would've pushed him further and further away.

When she did run into Ken, she didn't mention wanting to get back together, but she managed to remind him of some of the good times they'd had together. She also didn't apologize again; she'd already apologized, both in person and in writing, and she didn't want to remind him of her mistake.

One day, she managed to get tickets for Ken's favorite band, which was in town for one night only, and she invited him to go with her, "just as friends." He agreed, and they went and had a great time. After the show, they went their separate ways, but she knew she'd made progress; they went out, they had a good time, and she left it at that.

Ken and Amy did eventually get back together: by reminding him of the good times they'd shared, and not crowding him, she was able to build his trust again, and their relationship actually became stronger than ever.

Obviously, there was a lot more to the story than what I've written here, and Amy actually had help: she picked up a copy of "The Magic of Making Up System" and it showed her, step by step, how to win him back.

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Getting Your Ex Back When You’re the One Who Dumped Him

Here are 9 of the most common ways people unknowingly use to push their ex farther away:

1. Call them several times a day. This will drive them crazy and maybe inspire them to block your number. But you can always get more numbers, right? You could use disposable cell phones or call from a friend's phone if you really want to make them nuts.
2. Write them over and over telling them how much you miss them. Send emails, text them, send snail mail, leave notes on their windshield. This is a great way to get their attention. And push them farther away.
3. Remind them often of things they said and promises they made to you. Who says you have to accept that things have changed? They told you once that they loved you; they must have meant "forever", right? Constantly remind them of these things; it'll remind them what a good idea it was to break it off with you.
4. Follow them around. Stalk them. Let them know that wherever they go, you'll be right there with them. Every breath they take, every move they make, you'll be watching. Be sure to smile nice whenever they see you. And be sure to smile nice when you get served with that restraining order.
5. Pester their friends. Seek out their friends and ask how your ex is doing. See if their friends will tell you where your ex is going to be. Try to be wherever your ex and their friends are. This is an awesome way to get your ex to avoid you.
6. Call their new boyfriend or girlfriend and let them know in no uncertain terms that you are the only one for your ex, and that it's only a matter of time until your ex dumps them and gets back with you. Not only will this cause you ex to lose total respect for you, it'll also make you a new enemy, and may even make them closer as a couple.
7. Call their parents and try to be as much a part of their parents' lives as you were before the breakup. Heck, try to be even more a part of their parents' lives then you were before the breakup; you'll either a) get their parents mad at you, b) drive a wedge between them and their parents, or c) all of the above. Whatever happens, you've managed to push your ex further away, and that's what you're going for, right?
8. Come on to their best friend. Here's another great double-whammy: your efforts to make them jealous may end up ruining their friendship, and, sooner or later, the best friend is going to realize you were only using them to get your ex jealous and they'll hate you, too. Score!
9. Call their job repeatedly and ask about them, or ask to talk to them; this is almost certain to drive your ex away from you, especially if they lose their job over it.

These are just 9 of the many ways to fail big time at getting your ex back. If you've ever considered doing any of these, cross them off your list right now. If you've already tried one or more, throw away the rest of the list.

You might want to consider getting help from someone who's had success at helping people get back together with their ex - a little help can go a long way.

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