How do you get back with your ex? How do you convince him that what the two of you had was something special, something that's worth having again? Here's a woman's guide to making up.

First of all, you have to recognize that whatever happened, you were both to blame: if you cheated on him, maybe it was because he wasn't giving you what you needed, so you looked somewhere else; if he cheated on you, maybe you weren't giving him what he needed. This is an oversimplification, and I'm not saying that the cheater can totally blame their cheating on the other person, but the fact is, it takes two to tango.

So, it's important to forgive and forget. And remember, true forgiveness can't happen unless you also forget; if you don't forget, then you're still holding onto it, and why would you do that unless it was so that you could use it as a weapon later? You have to let go of whatever happened, and any anger that you're holding onto about what happened. Never bring it up again. Never let it be a part of your relationship again.

If you can't forgive and forget, even if you do get back with your ex, it probably won't last very long.

If you were the one who was at fault, apologize, and mean it. Too often, after someone says they're sorry, there's an "Oops! I did it again!" moment. But let's face it; you're not Britney Spears. It's not cute anymore. When you say you're sorry, commit to changing; otherwise, you don't really mean it.

Be ready to chase him a bit. This doesn't mean texting him over and over or stalking him, but you have to show that you're still interested. You can't expect him to come running back to you just because you sent out some half-hearted signal that you're ready to get back together; you have to be ready to swallow your pride and put your heart on the line.

And be prepared to settle for something less than what you're hoping for; maybe he's only ready to be "just friends". It will probably take some time for him to rebuild his trust in you. If that's the case, you need to give him his space. Take what he's offering right now and show him that he can trust you again.

Finally, you have to know when it's time to give up. It may be that he just won't be able to forgive you, and you'll have to recognize that. At this point, the best thing you can do is forget about getting back with him and move on with your life. While it may seem heartbreaking at the moment, it may turn out to be the best thing that ever could have happened to you. Only time will tell.

And remember: whatever went wrong with this relationship, your true soul mate is still out there; working too hard on getting back with your ex may prevent you from meeting him!