Getting your ex back can be hard enough if you're the one who got dumped. But it can be really hard if you were the one who did the dumping. And that's exactly what Amy did.

You see, Amy's friend Jill told her that her boyfriend, Ken, had been sleeping with another woman. And without even checking Jill's story out, or simply asking him about it, Amy confronted Ken and accused him of sleeping around. This took Ken totally by surprise because he actually wasn't sleeping around, and he didn't react very well to the accusation.

They got into a big argument, and Amy dumped him.

Later, Amy found out that Jill had just made the story up to see if she could stir things up. Now Amy was in a tight spot; she wanted to get Ken back, but she was the one who dumped him! She called Ken and explained what Jill had done and said she was sorry, but Ken was in no mood to even talk to her; Amy had hurt him too much by not trusting him and dumping him the way she did.

How could she get him back when he felt this way?

First of all, Amy wrote Ken a long letter. In it, she took total responsibility for what happened and promised it would never happen again. She reminded him that they had a long history and that they'd shared some great times. She said that she couldn't bear the thought of throwing that all away.

She admitted that she acted the way she did out of jealousy, because she loved him and couldn't stand the thought of him being with another woman. She didn't mention Jill again, or try to blame anyone else for her mistake.

After she mailed that letter, she left him alone: she didn't text him or call him. She figured that he needed his space. And she was right; if she'd kept after him at that point, it probably would've pushed him further and further away.

When she did run into Ken, she didn't mention wanting to get back together, but she managed to remind him of some of the good times they'd had together. She also didn't apologize again; she'd already apologized, both in person and in writing, and she didn't want to remind him of her mistake.

One day, she managed to get tickets for Ken's favorite band, which was in town for one night only, and she invited him to go with her, "just as friends." He agreed, and they went and had a great time. After the show, they went their separate ways, but she knew she'd made progress; they went out, they had a good time, and she left it at that.

Ken and Amy did eventually get back together: by reminding him of the good times they'd shared, and not crowding him, she was able to build his trust again, and their relationship actually became stronger than ever.

Obviously, there was a lot more to the story than what I've written here, and Amy actually had help: she picked up a copy of "The Magic of Making Up System" and it showed her, step by step, how to win him back.