Whether she just left, or it's been a while since the split, if you're wondering how to get your girlfriend back now, the process involves basically the same steps:
Look good, feel good.
It's easy to let yourself go when you're feeling down; you eat junk food, you don't do the laundry, and your stop going to the gym. You may be surprised how easy it is to pile on the pounds in just a couple of weeks of letting yourself go this way.
You have to stop feeling sorry for yourself and get back in the game: go to the gym, eat right, take care of your appearance. You're not going to get her back by looking like a slob.
Get out and enjoy yourself.
It won't necessarily hurt your chances of getting your ex back if you casually date another girl. Remember, you're not actually in a relationship with your ex any more, even though you want to be, and until you get her back, you're a free agent.
But don't go out with some other girl just to make your ex jealous; that's not going to get you anywhere. And if your ultimate goal is to get back with your ex, make it clear to the new girl that you're just interested in having some fun and nothing more.
Put things into perspective.
Don't kid yourself about what went wrong; you need to be honest with yourself if you hope to patch things up. It takes two to make a relationship work, and it takes two to mess a relationship up; make sure you accept your part in the break up and be ready to make amends.
Ask her to talk about it.
When you're feeling better and you've thought it all through, and you believe you have an honest perspective on what went wrong, make contact with her and see if she wants to talk about it. Don't push; just spend a couple of minutes seeing where she's at and whether she seems open to talking to you.
Depending on how she reacts to this initial contact, you either ask her to get together and talk things out, or you back off and give her some more time.
What to do next?
What to do next is a whole book all by itself, and if you really want to have the edge, you should get "The Magic of Making Up System"; it is the whole book, and it's helped lots of guys in the same boat you're in right now. Check it out.
