When you break up with someone (or they break up with you), you can go through lots of painful moments. You're sad, depressed, hurt. You miss them. You ask yourself, "What can I do to get my ex back?"
There are plenty of sites out there that try to answer that question, but common sense - and common courtesy - can make a huge difference in how things go after the breakup. If you're convinced you want your ex back, and you're wondering how to do it, here are some simple ideas that may help improve your chances of getting back together:
First of all, don't play games.
This is super important, and most people mess this up bad. They think if they can make the other person think they don't care, or that they care more than they actually do, they can game them into getting back together.
Don't kid yourself. What if your ex "falls for it", and they decide to give you another chance? How long do you think it'll take them to figure out you were gaming them? And what happens then?
Some people play the "I'm moving on, I'm over you" game, where they pretend to be dating somebody new, or to be in love with somebody else, to make the other person jealous. And yeah, that may make the other person jealous, but it could also totally push them away from you.
Think about it: how would you react if the situation was reversed? Would you get all jealous and want to get back with them? Or would you think, "Well, they got over me quick. Guess I better get over them, too" and move on to greener pastures? Hard to say. But it's also hard to say what your ex is gonna do if you play that with them. Do you want to take the chance that they pick door # 2 and make the break permanent?
Second, don't be mean.
Sometimes there's a lot of anger involved in a breakup, especially if your ex is the one who left. Don't let that anger get the best of you and mess things up with your ex for good. Look at it this way: if somebody was acting mean toward you, how much time would you want to spend with them? About... none. So why would anybody you're being mean to want to spend time with you?
They wouldn't.
Look, even if you're mad, the fact that you're asking yourself what you have to do to get your ex back shows that you're willing to forgive them for whatever hurt you think they've caused you. If you weren't willing to forgive them, you wouldn't want to get back with them: you'd be glad it was over.
Think about how you've been acting toward your ex: if you were them, would you look forward to seeing you or talking to you? Or would you dread the idea? Do you yell at your ex? Nag them? Argue? Fuss? Fight? Do you think that's going to attract them back, or push them away?
Be nice.
Let them remember what drew them to you in the first place (chances are it wasn't because you yelled at them and nagged them). Let them remember the good things about you and miss you because of them. Then you might have a chance to get back with them.
These are just a couple of ideas that'll help you get started on getting your ex back. And you don't have to take my word for it; I got this stuff from my buddy "T Dub" Jackson. Now, "T Dub" ain't no psychologist or relationship counselor; he's just a regular guy who showed me a simple step-by-step plan to get my ex back. A lot of what he told me was about the opposite of everything I'd ever tried, but then I figured, I didn't have much luck doing it my way, so I might as well try his.
And you know what? Worked like a charm. If you click on the link right below here, you can check him out for yourself. There's a couple of videos on that page where he'll tell you exactly what to do to get started the right way.
